Moving from Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion

We all experience setbacks at times. When this occurs, our thoughts may tend to move towards criticism of ourselves and our abilities. We can be hard on ourselves, hold ourselves to unrealistic expectations, and end up feeling alone in our suffering when these negative thoughts take over. A more helpful way to approach these situations is with self-compassion. Self-compassion is the act of extending compassion, or a caring willingness to help, to yourself in times of suffering or pain. It may be helpful to think about how you may respond to a friend who reaches out after getting a poor grade on an exam, or following a mistake they made in a relationship, and respond to yourself in the same manner. Try out some of the University Counseling Center's strategies for cultivating your own self-compassion.

• Practice self-kindness. Create a self-compassion affirmation that you can say to yourself during difficult times that is kind and gentle.
• Value mindfulness. Practicing mindful meditation, savoring the moment, and focusing on accurately labeling your emotions in the moment are all ways to stay mindful.
• Recognize common humanity and the highs and lows that come with the human experience.

Holiday Stress

A much needed break is ahead, Lakers! A break brings both excitement for some rest and relaxation, along with some understandable anxieties about how the time spent away from GV may feel. In fact, a recent study showed that over half of students feel stressed or anxious about seeing loved ones during the holidays. These concerns can stem from a variety of causes including travel anxieties, financial strain, coping with grief, and being away from college friends. Head into your breaks with some of these tips from the University Counseling Center, and reach out for support if necessary!

• Set realistic expectations of yourself and others. Things are not going to go perfectly, and that's okay!
• Plan time for yourself. Your loved ones may be eager to hear all about how your semester has been, and it is also valid to set appropriate boundaries and separate yourself when the interactions become overwhelming.
• Practice the self-care basics. Prioritizing quality sleep, taking prescribed medications, eating nutritious foods, and limiting your substance use can all help you feel your best in a change to your routine.
• If you will be alone for the break, spend some time thinking about how to best utilize your time. Reframe your approach from one of "isolation" to one of "solitude", or consider reaching out to someone else who may be in the area to stay connected.

Native American Heritage Month

During Native American Heritage Month, we encourage all to learn about Indigenous community histories and strengths, as well as the unique challenges faced today.
Native populations can face barriers to mental health care including mistrust of government and medical professionals. The University Counseling Center values diversity, inclusion, and equity, and is available to connect with students seeking support for their mental health. GVSU offers additional resources, including the Native American Student Association for those who would like to be included in an enriching group of students who share their culture and identity.